Whether you’re building a business, a network, or friendships, you always want to look for people who are genuine. After all, nobody wants to work or hang out with a phony. On the flipside, that goes for you, as well. Bet you never considered that.
In case you’re wondering, genuine means actual, real, sincere, honest. Genuine people are more or less the same on the inside as their behavior is on the outside. Unfortunately, it’s a tough quality to discern. The problem is that all human interactions are relative. They’re all a function of how we perceive each other through our own subjective lenses.
Being genuine is also a rare quality. In a world full of phony fads, media hype, virtual personas, positive thinkers, and personal brands – where everyone wants what they don’t have, nobody’s content to be who they are, and, more importantly, nobody’s willing to admit to any of that – it’s becoming more and more rare all the time.
To help you identify this rare breed — in yourself, as well — this is how genuine people behave.
- They don’t seek attention. They don’t need constant reinforcement of their own ego. Where attention seekers have a hole that constantly needs to be filled, genuine people are already filled with self-confidence and self-awareness.
- They’re not concerned with being liked. The need to be liked is born of insecurity and narcissism. It creates a need to manipulate your own and other’s emotions. Confident and authentic people are simply themselves. If you like them, fine. If not, that’s fine, too.
- They can tell when others are full of it. Perhaps naïve folks can be easily fooled, but genuine people are not naïve. They’re grounded in reality and that gives them a baseline from which they can tell when things don’t add up. There’s a big difference.
- They are comfortable in their own skin. In his late 70s, actor Leonard Nimoy said he was closer than ever to being as comfortable with himself as Spock appeared to be. Most of us struggle with that. As Henry David Thoreau observed, “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.”
- They do what they say and say what they mean. They don’t tend to overreach or exaggerate. They meet their commitments. And they don’t parse their words or sugarcoat the truth. If you need to hear it, they’ll tell you … even if it’s tough for them to say and for you to hear.
- They don’t need a lot of stuff. When you’re comfortable with whom you are, you don’t need a lot of external stuff to be happy. You know where to find happiness – inside yourself, your loved ones, and your work. You find happiness in the simple things.
- They’re not thin-skinned. They don’t take themselves too seriously so they don’t take offense when none is intended.
- They’re not overly modest or boastful. Since they’re confident of their strengths, they don’t need to brag about them. Likewise, they don’t exhibit false modesty. Humility is a positive trait but it’s even better to just be straightforward.
- They’re consistent. You might describe genuine people as being weighty, solid, or substantial. Since they know themselves well and are in touch with their genuine emotions, they’re more or less predictable … in a good way.
- They practice what they preach. They’re not likely to advise people to do something they wouldn’t do themselves. After all, genuine people know they’re no better than anyone else so it’s not in their nature to be self-righteous.
All those seemingly different behaviors have the same thing at their core: self-awareness that’s consistent with reality. Genuine people see themselves as others would if they were objective observers. There’s not a lot of processing, manipulating, or controlling going on between what’s in their head and what people see and hear.
Once you get to know them, genuine people turn out to be more or less consistent with the way they initially hold themselves out to be. What you see is what you get. It’s sad that, in today’s world, such a positive quality is at risk of becoming endangered. Not only is it harder to find in others, it’s becoming harder to be genuine ourselves.
PD weekly Contributor: Steve Tobak
At the start of the Rotaract year of 2013/14, the current President Dane Anderson, stated that he wanted to do a breakfast program at the Nannyville EarlyChildhood Institution since we had been doing infrastructural work on the school. The principal brought it to our attention that a few students didn’t attend school due to the lack of food. It was then that he decided to try and implement a program that would help in the upgrade of school life for the children. The main issue we had at the time was that of money: how were we going to fund such a project and for how long?
We did some research and realized that it would be very expensive to buy all the food we needed. The public relations director at the time Ms Shawna Brown , had the idea of doing a CANNED FOOD drive/collection so that we could still carry out the project. The Canned Food drive went on for three months as we did a massive online campaign for food to be dropped off or picked up and people from the general public, Rotary and Rotaract clubs responded and donated a lot of non-perishable items to us.
The Project started in January of 2014 and once per week we went to the school to prepare breakfast and we came to the realization that the students started to turn out early every Wednesday or Friday that we would have breakfast for them. This Project continued to grow as we had more Canned Food coming so we could also donate some for lunch too. The members of the Rotaract Club of New Kingston took turns in assisting and made it out from as early as 7am to start preparing food to be served at 8am. The turn out for school was magnificent and we were elated.
In the new Rotaract year we decided to continue as President Ryan McKenzie stated that he wanted this to be an ongoing project. Once again we did a new Food drive and we collected more canned food and also received a check donated by the Bismuth Company Ltd enabling us to begin again in September which is the start of the school year. We decided to stay because we knew the situation of the school and the impact we made in the first 3 months of the Breakfast program.
We have introduced fruits and juices to the menu as we have received several donations toward the project this year. This is also required in Rotary’s six areas of focus which we try to fulfill in each of the activities we do.
The Breakfast Program has been successful and it shows how the thought of one president to implement something different has now become a signature project for the club.
Greetings My Dedicated Rotafamily;
Happy Magazine Month!!
Welcome to the tenth month of our 2014-2015 Rotaract Year. Often times I am asked by Rotaract Clubs what they can do to get their message out. In addition to that, district board members have requests coming in from clubs seeking support for one of their programs, projects or activities. I constantly hear from clubs that have something wonderful to say but they cannot get their message out.
April is designated to tackle these concerns as we recognize this month as Magazine Month. During this year, Rotaract District 7020 has strived to improve its communication with Rotaractors by forwarding newsletters from Rotary International, urging you to share your events through social media and encouraging you to send your information to Rotary District 7020 to be published in their monthly newsletter. In addition to that, Rotaract District 7020 board has introduced an E-magazine so that you can share your information to the world. I encourage you to fill out the E-magazine template and submit it to DRS Luciana by April 1st 2015 as the board aim to assist you in getting your message across. Nevertheless, there are so many ways you can spread the word about your club and receive information such as:
• Submit information and read the Rotary District 7020 Newsletter
• Subscribe to receive Rotary International newsletters
• Create/Use your club’s newsletter and publish it online
• Distribute copies of your newsletter/magazine in your community
• Read “The Rotarian” magazine online
• Submit your club’s information for District Rotaract 7020 Newsletter
Speaking of communication, leads me to mention about our greatest annual communication; District Conference May 27th to 31st at the Sonesta Maho Beach Resort and Casino, in St. Maarten. The Conference is in its final stages of preparation. The steering committee and District Board team have set out to give an experience with a difference. I look forward to meeting everyone and being a part of the buzz of this great communication forum and the benefits that flow on from joining together in friendship and fellowship.
In closing, I will leave you with this,“Not every article submitted will have the same success, however; with the right format, content and style, with a genuine interest to all Rotaractors, you will be surprised what success can be achieved.”—District 9212 Governor Harry Mugo, April 2014
Ever wonder why the Rotary year begins 1 July? The international convention initially played a key role in determining the start date of our fiscal and administrative year.
Rotary’s first fiscal year began the day after the first convention ended, on 18 August 1910. The 1911-12 fiscal year also related to the convention, beginning with the first day of the 1911 convention on 21 August.
At its August 1912 meeting, the Board of Directors ordered an audit of the International Association of Rotary Clubs’ finances. The auditors recommended that the organization end its fiscal year on 30 June to give the secretary and treasurer time to prepare a financial statement for the convention and board, and determine the proper number of club delegates to the convention.
The executive committee concurred, and at its April 1913 meeting, designated 30 June as the end of the fiscal year. This also allowed for changes to the schedule for reporting club membership and payments. Even The Rotarian changed its volume numbering system to correspond to the fiscal year (beginning with vol. 5, July 1914).
Rotary continued to hold its annual conventions in July or August until 1917. Delegates to the 1916 event in Cincinnati, Ohio, USA, approved a resolution to hold future conventions in June, mainly because of the heat in cities where most of them occurred. The next one was held 17-21 June in Atlanta, Georgia.
The term “Rotary year” has been used to signify Rotary’s annual administrative period since at least 1913. An article in The Rotarian that July noted, “The Rotary year that is rapidly drawing to a close has been signalized by several highly successful joint meetings of Clubs that are so situated as to assemble together easily and conveniently.”
Since the executive committee’s decision in 1913, the end of the Rotary year has remained 30 June.
Happy March my Fellow Rotaractors!
This month, not only do we celebrate Literacy Month, but we celebrate each and every one of us with World Rotaract Week!
March 13, 1968 was the charter of the very first Rotaract Club in North Carolina, USA. World Rotaract Week is designed to foster Rotary and Rotaract activities in celebration of the founding of the Rotaract movement. It is also an excellent opportunity for Rotaractors to let the broader community know about the amazing work that Rotaract clubs do, and give them an opportunity to get involved.
NKRC will be embracing this week with lots of activities designed to not only let the world see the impact we make but to also have fun as we Rotaractors know how to do oh so well. After all, our motto is “Fellowship through Service”.
I leave you all with a very common but powerful acronym:
T – Together
A – Achieves
M – More
President – Rotaract Club of New Kingston.
Greetings My Incredible Rotafamily;
HAPPY WORLD UNDERSTANDING MONTH!
The month of February is World Understanding Month and Rotary International has designated February 23rd as World Understanding and Peace Day. Even though we practice this continuously throughout the year, it is a specific time for us to stress the importance of concentrating on goodwill and understanding in the world. It is a time to think about the abundant projects that your club has worked on for many years that stems around this theme.
When I joined Rotaract six years ago, I never dreamed that I would one day travel around different parts of the world to partake in service projects, observe so many different cultures and matters, nor that I would do so as a District Rotaract Representative. It would be pleasing to think that this was a strategy that was somehow now being realized, but that simply is not the case. Like so many of you, I am inspired by the realism of selfless service we provide to the world as Rotaractors. It’s not an arrogant ideal, rather something that once embraced through the family of Rotary, becomes a part of you.
During the month of February, I encourage all Rotaract clubs in our District to conduct events that explore world understanding and peace. Some activities that we can conduct are:
• Exchange of culture boxes with other Rotaract clubs
• Conduct skype meetings with other clubs.
• Invite international guest speakers
• Culture nights showcasing your members’ culture
• Invite Group Study Exchange members to speak on their experiences.
• Conduct discussions on global issues
• Peace walks
Looking beyond color and creed we find the common ground of our humanity and come to an understanding of the world that motivates us in Rotaract to advance world understanding, goodwill and peace. I urge you to use this month to expand your club’s “World Understanding” as a way to embrace Rotaract District 7020’s theme, “Helping Hands, Touching Hearts, Changing Lives.”